Wellbeing Lead for Technology & Transformation consulting, Bristol
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“I get a serious buzz from helping people work through challenges and seeing teams improve their communication skills.”
I grew up in a seaside town in Essex with my brother and parents. I was really into sports especially hockey, netball and athletics. I have many great memories of my childhood, but I did suffer with a lot of tension. I picked up on unresolved friction easily and learned to put other people’s challenges before mine, which made me a bit of a people pleaser. At the age of 11 I was diagnosed with moderate but untreatable scoliosis. This had a big impact on my mental health, and I experienced negative comments because of the curve in my spine. During my teens I began drinking to cope, especially in social situations where I felt self-conscious. It wasn’t always the healthiest relationship with alcohol. After school I went to university to study philosophy, followed by an MA in management. I started working as a business development lead for an apprenticeship provider focusing on social mobility, which I really enjoyed. However, I wanted to work for a larger company, so I joined Deloitte’s graduate scheme, working in systems engineering, as I was fascinated by new tech.
I’m now the Wellbeing Lead for Deloitte’s consultative business: Technology & Transformation in the UK, helping to build a sustainable, ‘people-first’ culture at the firm.
My role is to communicate with people in our business and showcase where they can find supportive materials for any help they may need. We want our people to feel safe sharing any challenges they’re having, weaving wellbeing into the way we work, to support our sustainable high-performance culture.
Before this role I was a consultant, helping public sector clients to implement new technology and improve processes. In November 2021, I was doing really well at work, but I wasn’t resting properly or managing my workload. As a result, I suffered from a major burnout. I felt exhausted all the time and struggled to get out of bed. I’d lost my sense of humour and felt very low. My scoliosis had also progressed without me noticing, leaving me in chronic pain.
With the support of Deloitte and my client, I took five months off work to recover.
Despite several setbacks, I was able to make huge progress with both my mental and physical health. I did a lot of physiotherapy for my scoliosis and went to therapy for my mental health. During this time, I also addressed my relationship with alcohol, developing more mindful drinking habits.
Before taking time out, I’d been supporting women’s wellbeing as a side of desk project. I also ran painting sessions for my clients during covid lockdowns. When I returned to work, I took a secondment in Flourish, which is the Wellbeing and Inclusion events programme for Technology & Transformation. This move led me to my current role. I get a serious buzz from helping people work through challenges and seeing teams improve their communication skills.
| Monday | Tuesday | Wednesday | Thursday | Friday |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| I have a meeting to discuss how we best support our people from a wellbeing and practical perspective on specific projects. I enjoy coming into the office because seeing people in person is a great mental health boost. | I catch up with my People & Purpose leader and the core team, to do a round robin of things we’re working on. After work I go swimming in a local lake and use the sauna. | I run a Flourish session today, which are wellbeing events for people in T&T. Today’s is focused on women’s health and we’re giving tips and advice around this. In the evening I play hockey. | I meet with the wellbeing leads from different business areas to talk about any challenges they’re facing. We have a best practice sharing session in the afternoon. | It’s my deep focus today, to go through all my emails. I also run some coaching sessions which I really enjoy. After work I take part in a flower arranging class. |
I still enjoy sports, playing hockey twice a week, including Saturday mornings. I was told I had to give it up after my scoliosis got worse, so it’s amazing to be able to play again after intense physiotherapy. At the weekend I often catch up with friends or family and I love my Sunday roasts. I enjoy having deep chats with people I trust, it’s the best thing for my mental health. During my holidays I also love exploring new places and hiking.
Every morning I do 10 minutes of deep breathing exercises in my garden, no matter what the temperature. It helps to slow down my thoughts and detach. I also do short power walks and kitchen dancing during the day to break up my screentime. It’s important to find little ways to ground yourself.
I’ve learned to meet myself, other people and the world around me exactly where it is. Remember it’s only possible to control what’s in your sphere of control, so you need to practice not worrying about the things outside this. If you feel anxiety building, show yourself self-compassion and connect with people close to you.
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Being You by Anil Seth
This book is focused on the neurobiology behind our experiences, which is more needed than ever in the digital world. I read it after taking part in the Dream Machine, a social experiment where a group of people are blindfolded, before being exposed to the same light patterns and music. It was a really enlightening experience and we painted what saw behind our eyes, with everyone having very different interpretations. The experiment was based on the book, and it illustrates how diverse our perceptions are. This has helped me to accept my own mental health patterns and build empathy for others.